Why YOUR words matter

*Are you tired of repeating yourself to a student(s)?
* Over your instructions not being followed?
* Does the child become anxious or frustrated when you give them instructions? 
*When you say certain words (eg ’NO’)  can this trigger an overreaction or escalate behaviour?
*Is this impacting on the rest of the class and learning time?
 
The Chances are they don’t actually understand what they are
meant to do.
 
As a teacher when I realised the POWER OF MY WORDS it made a huge difference.
 
I’d love everyone who gets my emails to print this out one-page guide 
and share with your colleagues (or families) to remind everyone
 “Your Words Matter” and the choice of words can have a HUGE difference
 
My promise is it will make a big difference… for everyone!

Extract

Many children with ASD have Mind Blindness, meaning they are often literal and don’t know the inferred intent of language. This often leads to difficulty understanding another person’s perspective. 

This can mean certain words are often very confusing, for example, children with ASD typically struggle with the words STOP and NO. If an adult says STOP what does this mean? Do they mean stop breathing? Stop moving? Stop eating? STOP does not tell a child what they can do – it only tells them what they shouldn’t do. When you have to use STOP make sure you add a little bit more information so the child knows what they should do i.e. STOP working, pencil down, it’s time to listen…..

Another instance where confusion may occur due to this literalness is in the use of the words ‘could’, ‘would’ and ‘can’ as they often sound like a choice rather than a direction. For example when asked, “Could you start your work?” children may just answer yes or no rather than taking action! It is therefore better to simply say Start work to avoid this confusion.

Although these instructions may sound over directed they clearly convey the intended message to the child. It is important children know what your words mean, so they respond appropriately for their own safety and learning. 

Focus on telling the child what you want them to do rather than focusing on what they are not to do e.g. if they rushed into the bathroom and started playing with the taps, rather than saying NO say First toilet, then wash hands. The latter is far more supportive and directive for the child. 

In the table below I have a few ideas to get you started about thinking about how your words matter and can be replaced so you say what you MEAN. 

I Read Every Comment and Questions

Let me know:

1. The words or situations that you have found students misunderstand.

2. Any questions you’d like me to explain

 

4 Comments

  1. Lyndal breen

    My ASD son is now nearly 40 but communication on quite a basic level continues to be difficult. I appreciate being reminded about positive phrasing, such as naming the behaviour you want to see. Over the years I have found that there are a lot of forms of language that are closed to Ed. Poetry is a mystery, a lot of jokes don t make sense, wordplay is lost on him and many sayings and idioms mean nothing. This has impacted on his ability to work well with others. For example, working in a bar exposed him to rhyming slang – must get home to the trouble and strife quite alarmed him and even after it was explained as a jocular way of referring to a wife, he said, well its not funny.

    Reply
    • Sue Larkey

      Fantastic share Lyndal. Thanks Sue

      Reply
  2. Margaret

    What do you suggest to get the whole staff using the same words etc?

    Reply
    • Sue Larkey

      Hi Margaret, My number #1 tip (after discussing as a staff etc) is to paste it onto the back of the staff toilet!! Strange but works as a reminder. Clarifying these words as a staff works for ALL KIDS. Cheers

      Reply

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