Episode 158: Why Perfectionists can get Upset Over the Smallest Things and What you can do?

Why Perfectionists can get upset Over the 

Smallest Things And What you Can Do?

 

Discussed in this Episode:

5 Categories of ‘things’ that can upset perfectionists

The underlying reasons why Neurodiverse students are upset by small things 

What to do

✅ Why knowing how long is so important

Range of Visuals to Use

WHY Students with ASD don’t want to ‘Have a Go’ and How you Can Help?

A key part of increasing participation and engagement is getting students to “have a go” BUT……..have you ever noticed making mistakes is particularly frustrating for students with ASD?

This is because people with ASD often have difficulty with “cognitive flexibility” in other words they have a one track mind, their thinking tends to be rigid and not adapt to failure or change. One of the characteristics associated with this inflexibility is being less able to learn from mistakes. Parents and teachers report that the child continues to persevere with an activity, having a mental block and not changing their strategies even if they are not working. An often heard phrase is “he doesn’t like making mistakes” or “he doesn’t learn from consequences”. (Tony Attwood, Asperger’s Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals, page 117)

When we are trying to engage children or encourage them to participate this “inflexible thinking” can be a barrier to learning. The challenges of “inflexible thinking” are students can make the same mistakes over and over, can’t see an alternative option or opinion, or get frustrated when corrected as they believe they are correct. There are a range of strategies we can use to support understanding and therefore encourage trying ‘new activities’ or ‘having a go’.

Insights from My Wonderful Facebook Community 

1.   Anything can Change Daily!

2.   Things not the way they usually are

E.g. at lunch inside play as raining, small changes like wrong pen, smudge on eraser, pencil lead breaking. things not quite ‘right’

3.  Perfectionism, wanting everything perfect. (High standards for themselves)

  • Letter touching line or writing perfect shape.
  • Colouring outside of line
  • Narrative writing not fitting into suggested number of lines
  • Spelling mistake
  • ‘Wrong’ answer when they believed correct

 

4.   Other students! I like to call Class ‘Police Officers’

  • Interrupting, 
  • Not following the rules
  • Other children ‘pushing in’
  • Other children touching your things

5.   Sensory upsets 

  • Paper sticking to hand
  • Flicker of fluro lights
  • Clicking Pens
  • Creaky Spot on Floor
  • Desk Wobbly
  • People Breathing too loudly

WHAT TO DO!

  • Break activities into small achievable steps.
  • Use Social Stories to support understanding (i.e. in Developing Social Skills book “It is okay to make mistakes” page 72).
  • Model making mistakes and how to correct (cross out, rub out, etc.)
  • Tell what to do, not what not to do. Use positive phrases rather than negative. For example: put your hand up vs don’t call out (see opposite).
  • Using range of prompts to support learning.
  • Reward having a go.
  • Instead of putting an “X” for mistakes, try putting a circle around the mistake and call it “learning”.
  • Model your own thinking when things go wrong – “Oh I went the wrong way, what can I do now?”
  • Show how to be calm first when a problem happens
  • Practice and Model flexible thinking
  • Talk about other peoples perspectives. “Why do you think the person pushed in?” “Why do you think Mum set a different flavoured snack?”

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