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Toilet training kids is a big task even for neuro-typical children. Parents often procrastinate over when to start and we keep delaying it for whatever reason we can think of!

My biggest concern for children with ASD is if they are not out of nappies by five years of age then they often start to lose muscle control and can end up with long term bowel and bladder issues. Toileting is not something that the child will grow into or get better with age. We all need to action ASAP – and this includes schools. If a child is attending pre-school or school when the parents are toilet training then everyone needs to get behind the toileting programme and provide consistency all day every day until the child has mastered it.

Learn how to Toilet Train Kids with Autism Today!

When to Start Toilet Training

Signs of readiness in children with autism are not evident like they are with neuro-typical children. The main sign of readiness is compliance, or the child’s ability to imitate. If you can get the child to do what you ask, and/or copy an action – then they are ready.

Generally a good guide is the first summer after the child turns three. If you leave it later than this (i.e. four to five years), you face the possibility that the child may be less obliged to comply and they know how to push boundaries a little further. Plus habits around toileting will have begun to form as the child has got more aware of bladder and bowel control.

Realistically you need to allow up to three weeks of intensive toilet training. Most children will pick it up within a week, but a few can take up to three weeks. You won’t know where your child fits into this until you start. (Remember just one wee in the toilet is progress, look for small signs to start)

Create good routines around toilet timing. Have set times when the child must go to the toilet. Examples include:

• When they get up in the morning.
• Before leaving the house at any time of the day.
• Before bed (as part of the bedtime routine).
• Any time they may not be able to access a toilet for an hour or more.
• Before going into any water (bath, swimming pool, etc).
• Before getting into the car.
• Before eating i.e. toilet, wash hands, etc.

Why do children with ASD continue to have accidents and take longer to be dry at night?

Some children on the spectrum don’t realise they need to go to the toilet until they are absolutely desperate and it’s literally seconds before they cannot physically hold on any more that they believe that they need to go. This is why often when they go it is a huge flood, or why they often do not night train like other children as their brain doesn’t wake them up until it is too late, if at all.

At school many students need toilet routines as they often don’t think to go in breaks as they don’t notice they need the toilet until their bladder is FULL.

Click here for more information – Podcast Episode 42: Bedwetting and Nighttime Toileting Advice and Strategies